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As we probably all guessed, I have not heard from The Brit any more since that day at the zoo when I realized my cheesecake was not British. After feeling completely insulted by him, I wasn't particularly heart-broken to have his name stop popping up on my phone. Even my crazy-friend called him an asshole in my last session. So, it's time to move on to the next guy. First, though, I have to find a next guy.

I'm on OKCupid.com and eHarmony as I have said in a previous post and to be truthful (and really, when am I not?) I haven't had much luck yet. I did get closer to luck the last few times I've been interested in someone from OKCupid though so I guess I need to stay positive. There was a guy I liked from there back in December but he turned out to like somebody else a bit better than myself. And then The Brit who was so awesome but had some sort of duel-personality situation.... and I was only compatible with one of them. So, back to the drawing board.

While I am someone who interacts easily and readily with the people around me, I think I like the idea of online dating even strange as it can be. It seems like a good idea to be able to see pictures and see someone put their best foot forward as their online self. If you can't like someone's best self as they show it online, how could you like them when they are at their worst? It seems that online dating would allow me to be judgmental in the privacy of my own home and without hurting anyone's feelings too much in the process. I can view profiles, decide what I like and what I don't like and choose to message or not message from there. The sting of rejection seems to nearly disappear when you are not even seeing that person face to face. The downside is that people can portray themselves completely differently than they really are and that can get tricky and seriously disappointing. I tend to move to the "let's get coffee" stage pretty quickly after testing things over for a while on these sites. If a person can hold my interest enough to a) message/message them back in the first place b) carry on a conversation that doesn't make me want to run away and c) speak articulately and use proper words than I will usually be willing to sit down and have coffee. Truthfully, those three criteria I gave weed out about 98% of the online dating databases for me and the other 2% are hard to find. When I find them, I am willing to at least give it an hour to meet someone new based on the chance it could be a good meet up.

So, right now I am looking for that 2% that I can meet up and see what happens with. I am looking for someone who doesn't make me want to run away before I can even learn their name. I'm really feeling like I need to start meeting some people. My life is slipping by day by day and wasn't it Jhn Lennon who said "life is what happens while you're busy making other plans?" I need to stop planning for when I meet and guy and get to the actual meeting some guys part. The more I meet the better my chances of finding a quality someone, right?

And after all, this is a blog about the pursuit of love — it's mandatory research. :)

~B